Thursday, February 5, 2009

A Whole Lava Love

A recent frank discussion with a College friend led me to ponder the whole relationship thing.

Over the years we have seen many relationships flourish and then die, rushed through a process that, had it been taken in God's time, may have produced something fruitful or, at least, life-time friendships. Instead, these rushed relationships leave in their path two people who have a tough time being in the same room together. When they have been physical, the damage is even greater, as one or both feel ashamed and used.

When they are two people from the same circle of friends or church it is even more difficult, as the drama extends beyond them and affects the whole community.

We always encourage young folks to "pursue the friendship" and let God lead. No sense in rushing the second most important decision of your life. It has been said that 90% of your happiness or misery will come from this one decision.

Yesterday, the image came to me of a volcano. And the words, "Relationships and volcanoes are a lot alike. They are easy to get into, but hard to get out of".

My counsel...approach the beginning of a relationship very carefully. If it is right with God, you should be willing to absolutely give your life in the process. If it is not right, it is almost impossible to get out without someone being burned.

Guys:
Job 31:1
"I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl."

Girls:
Song of Solomon 2:7

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you
by the gazelles and by the does of the field:
Do not arouse or awaken love
until it so desires.

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